Missing My Mother On Mother's Day

OK, Nancy, please give me a tissue warning the next time you write something so pure and from the heart, okay? Well written, says it all. ~Maria

Funny isn't it, that just walking into a card shop can trigger so many emotions. I think I'll always miss my mom, no matter how many years it's been since she passed away.
Nancy

Your story will touch all the hearts of those who are missing their mom's this Mother's Day. Very touching. Hugs!!

Many thanks. I think that's one reason I posted this as I know there are many who still miss their mothers.
Nancy

Dear Nancy, Thanks for posting this poignant message about missing your mother on Mother's Day. I fully understand how you loved and missed your Mom. Sometimes I see just the right card like that and send it to someone in a nursing home, or someone with no family, signed from your secret pal or admirer. I just had a birthday, the first since my Mom passed last May. She always sent the loveliest cards and I've saved most of them in a box. I wish you lived closer to Buffalo so we could meet for a chat. Happy Mother's Day with your family. Veronica

Hi Veronica,

I have a May birthday, too, but toward the end of the month. And yes, that would be wonderful to be able to sit and chat. I have a feeling we two would have much to discuss.
Happy Mother's Day to you,
Nancy

Beautifully shared piece of your heart Nancy. I am sad on Mother's Day because of my love/hate relationship with my mother. However as I get older and am now a grandmother myself I understand more or what Mother was suffering in my childhood years. I am sad for the relationship we did not have, but I am happy with the relationship I have with my daughter and granddaughter. I missed so much, but as Mother learned more about mothering, my siblings did not have such a difficult time. I guess Mother's Day is a time of mourning for the 'could have beens' for Mother and me. I have sent her card and will take her to lunch when I go to the city, she taught me so much, but could not love well.I did not get the hugs to miss, so consider yourself special, as I make my daughter and granddaughter feel special. I grieve for the little girl whose Mother really cared more for housework than for her.
But as a grown woman I understand that she was ill, and still is very ill with Bipolar Disorder.
She tells me I am her shining light but it is too late for the little girl who grieved over forgotten birthdays, and tolerated verbal abuse until she was old enough to walk away.
My daughter has better memories and I cherish that part of it all.
What does not kill us makes us stronger. I truly believe that.
Happy Mother's Day!
Bonnie.

What lovely memories Nancy and what a great relationship you both shared. Throug this wonderful story I could almost feel the presence of my own fond mother,long since passed away.

Well done Nancy, keep writing. God bless. Kathleen Blanchfield

What lovely memories Nancy and what a great relationship you both shared. Throug this wonderful story I could almost feel the presence of my own fond mother,long since passed away.

Well done Nancy, keep writing. God bless. Kathleen Blanchfield

Do we ever stop missing them? For me it's not my mother, she still lives, but my grandmother who raised me. Your May story reminded me of her too because she was born in May and Memorial Day was a time when the lilacs bloomed in Maine where we lived and she would cut big bunches to put on the graves of relatives who had passed on. Poignant pieces. Thank you for sharing them.

Carol Williams

Dear Carol,

Thank you for taking time to write to me regarding my Mother's Day story. I think it triggered some memories for many people. The story is going to be included in a new Chicken Soup for the Soul book called A Tribute to Moms. I believe it will be out sometime before Mother's Day this year.
Nancy Kopp